staanuris:

choose your fighter

nomorepainwithslash:

thenamelesscorpse2185:

tarot-sybarite:

lettersfromeleanorrigby:

aria-jane-cherry:

jennikeatts:

w0rldweaver:

soloveitchik:

pbrim:

iammyfather:

nerdymouse:

lesbwian:

Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞

Jesus, leave his ass.

We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.

My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning.  They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.

This is so sad

This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user

Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.

Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”

My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time

It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother

Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.

After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:

• The online banking password (dude, I left you, you should really change that)
• Where I ordered his special-wecial organic underwear
• Where the good cutting board was (my dad gave it to us at our wedding, genius, I took it with me along with the rest of the stuff from my family)
• What brand butter we bought
• What brand of local kielbasa we bought
• Who his doctor was
• What RMV office had the shortest lines
• Where the old tax returns were (in the fucking box labeled tax returns)
• The phone number for his best friend

I shit you not.

Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.

Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.

Millennial women of Tumblr, please read this post.

And then please: make the decision for yourself to never stay with a man who expects you to be his mother and servant.

I don’t have the patience for this.

I find it important to add: dear mothers (and fathers), don’t let your sons get away with this sort of behavior past childhood. Teach your boys to be as independent as your daughters. Teach them it’s their responsibility to look after their own shit, not wait for a mother/wife/slave figure to do it instead of them. 

because I shit you not, I work with 3 mothers in their 50s from various backgrounds who all have sons my age (early to middle twenties), and they still don’t demand they help out around the house or do other essentials like cleaning, cooking or washing their own clothes. And that’s just fucking sad for everyone, not just the people they might end up in relationships with. 

rottenfaery:

“Just trust your gut”

Pal I have anxiety, my gut is literally always telling me to abort mission

anais-ninja-bitch:

rafi-dangelo:

1) We don’t want to talk to you.

2) We don’t want to pause our music to talk to you.

3) We don’t even talk to each other on the phone — why would we want to talk to you?

But the biggest reason is A TRAIL. If I e-mail you back, you can see what was said in the future. You can’t tell me I forgot to tell you something because it’s right there. You can’t tell me I “never reached out” because we can both SEE it. I don’t have to trust your recollection.

And, in a group inbox, you can see who has been responded to. I got forwarded a voicemail from my supervisor (through e-mail! imagine that!) asking me to call some lady back for clarification. So I did, against my will of course…and she said somebody had called her yesterday.

Who? When? What did y’all talk about? Is follow-up necessary?

Phone calls back and forth only work in a workflow where the standard procedure is to *log* phone calls in a shared system with a brief summary of what was discussed. Otherwise, y’all need to let us e-mail. It’s not just about a generation gap. It’s also about efficiency.

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk. Any feedback can be proffered via e-mail.

EDIT

Also: let’s keep it real – we multi-task better than you do. If I’m on the phone with you, I’m FORCED to do that ONE thing and put whatever you want above all the other things I could’ve been doing. If you e-mail me, I can research what you want (while doing other things), find the solution (while doing other things), and offer it to you in a nice concise package (while doing other things) without sitting on the phone with you in awkward silence looking for the answer to whatever you think is urgent. (It’s not urgent. You’re not dying. I know it’s not urgent.)

OP is being kind in saying “i don’t have to trust your recollection.” people straight up lie, especially customers.

disabilityhealth:

Don’t be a “respect is earned not given” kind of person

Be a “respect is given unless proven undeserved” kind of person

profeminist:

-  Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach, writer

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“The same people who can deny others everything are famous for refusing themselves nothing.” 

- Leigh Hunt, poet and essayist 

diamorics:

Reblog this post to wish a non-binary person a good day!

latenights:

do u ever look at ur body and regret all the junk food you’ve ever eaten but then proceed to eat more junk food to comfort urself

nettlewildfairy:

Not to get political but my philosophy is fundamentally that all people should suffer less. That it’s everyone’s responsibility to try to make the world a little better for everyone else. And anyone trying to do the opposite is an asshole who needs to stop.